Self-Confidence Coaching

You’re so confused. Isn’t this how you are supposed to be?

You are kind, helpful, and caring and show up for everyone in your world but no one feels like they are there for you quite like you are there for them. You’re a good person but sometimes your kindness feels like it is taken as weakness. The people in your world feel like they can talk to you and do whatever they want and you feel like what’s the use of saying anything, it’s sometimes easier to just go along. But you wish you didn’t avoid confrontation and it’s stressful when you don’t speak up. But you brush it off, it’s no big deal. Deep down you are resentful, angry, and tired of these one-sided relationships.

You're exhausted, rushing, running around like a chicken with your head cut off. And for what? After all you’ve done people still don’t appreciate you. Maybe you try to say something and push back but people say you’re acting funny, overreacting, or being too sensitive and you feel like maybe you are. 

You feel like you’re so far past your capacity that you’ve grown numb and cold or angry and exhausted. All the while it feels like people keep taking and taking even past your empty. So many people depend on you, you don’t want to disappoint them and at the same time, you never feel like your needs for yourself are met and you feel guilty for even wanting to make yourself a priority. You don’t even know where you fit in your own life. Your life has become meeting other people’s needs and expectations.  You feel like a victim to everyone else’s demands, wants, and needs. It feels like you’re going to explode.

You can’t keep doing this. You’re not taking care of yourself and you feel like you’re going to explode. You want people to be there for you like you are for them and want to be able to speak your mind and ask for what you want but you wonder, is this even really a big deal? The thought of it all makes you just want to crawl into a dark hole and get away from everyone and everything else just to have a sliver of time for you.

I’m Tiffany, a certified coach, who helps women who are people pleasers at heart be kind and caring while also getting their own needs met and ask for what they want.

You can be both a kind person and have limits, and boundaries, and be assertive, that's what I support you in creating.

I help you get really clear on what taking care of yourself looks like and push you to show up day to day in ways that honor that self-care. With that, I will nudge you to be assertive, set boundaries, and let go of anything or anyone who is no longer serving you. I will give you tools to do this in a way that takes things step by step and help get you more comfortable with behaving in these new ways that maybe you’ve never done before. 

Is Self-Confidence Coaching right for you?

Coaching is right for you if you finally want to bring balance back to your relationships and kick this annoying habit you have of putting everyone else first. And don’t worry while we’re working together my therapy hat is stored away in the closet. We won’t be digging deep into your past or processing any painful memories but we will look at how his habit started and the beliefs and behaviors that’s kept it going all these years. Do expect me to challenge you, who you believe you have to be, and the unhealthy habits you've adopted along the way, but rest assured we’ll have fun while doing this. 

You’re in the right place if…

• The constant pull of everyone’s needs and priorities has left you resentful, angry, and downright tired

• You have a hard time speaking up and asking for what you want and shy away from confrontation 

• You rationalize not speaking up and brush it off as no big deal

• People have told you you're too emotional, over-exaggerate, or too sensitive and you wonder if you really are 

• You feel like you have to pretend, bottle up your emotions, or have it all together in the eyes of other people 

• Saying no gives you anxiety like nobody’s business 

• You feel lost in others’ opinions of you and wonder if you really know yourself or if you’re just showing up as who others think you should be 

• You feel responsible for everyone, and their needs and have a hard time separating yourself from others 

Coaching is right for you if…

• You are in a space of action 

• You feel like your mental health is stable

• You’ll benefit more from visioning, action, and focus 

• You want to look at where you are now and how you can create the ideal version of yourself and your life 

• You’re ready to put in the hard work and for a deep dive 

• You’re ok with dipping your toe into the past to understand the present but don’t want to deeply process or resolve past experiences 

• You’re solution-oriented and are ready to make action plans 

• You want to look at the shame, blame, and external validation, that gets in the way 

The coaching journey…

By the end of coaching you will:

• Feel good enough 

• Measure your worth internally 

• Have balance in your relationships

• Tap into your true power by using your voice 

• Fearlessly express yourself 

• Advocate for yourself and your needs

• Be who you want to be 

• Create AND enforce boundaries, limits, and standards to take care of you

• Have internal confidence and self-love 

• Authentically show up as your true self 

• Embracing vulnerability 

• Doing the hard thing: end that relationship, going after passion instead of safety, whatever that looks like for you

It’s time to step into your true power and own who you are.

I want you to have the peace you yearn for and to be the strong woman you desire to be. 

Let's begin this new journey to boldly speaking up, getting your needs met, and having that space for you. Contact me for a complimentary 15-minute consultation to begin your plan. Click here to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation for self-confidence coaching. My other specialties include self-esteem counseling.