Self-Confidence Coaching Tools

Check out these self-confidence coaching tools that I use in my coaching sessions to help you build your self-esteem and kick people pleasing to the curb.

If you’re thinking about hiring a confidence coach, then you may be wondering what that will look like.

This may be the first time that you’ve met with someone for help and may have no idea what to expect. It can be scary to start the process of coaching and you may wonder what each session will look like and have many questions. Questions like, What will we talk about? What is important for the coach to know? Will this be like therapy? Will this even work? What will we do in each session? “ So today, I want to walk you through some of the self-confidence coaching tools that I use, which may be similar to coaching tools other coaches might use as well, to make reaching out a little less mysterious and scary.

First thing, therapy and coaching are two different relationships and will look different and have a different focus. For today we’re talking all about one-on-one coaching and the self-confidence coaching tools that a confidence coach may use.

Wheel of Life

The beginning of a coaching relationship is really to get an understanding of your goals, explore barriers, and create a plan of action for your work together. To do this, one tool that I use is the wheel of life. We would use this to look at your satisfaction in different areas of your life, whether that is family, relationships, career, fun/enjoyment, etc. This helps us not only look at how satisfied you’re feeling in each of these key areas of your life but also helps us to decide on which area we want to focus on. Since my work is mainly focused on building self-confidence, we look at these different areas and how low self-esteem and people pleasing show up in these areas as well for you. For example, in relationships, it is very common for my clients to have a hard time advocating for their needs in relationships, leading to these one-sided relationships as a result of low self-esteem and/or pleasing people.

Values Assessment

I looove doing values assessments. Our values are the things that are most important to us in life and guide our decisions and choices. When we are in alignment with our values, then life feels good, but when we dishonor them, then we feel resentful, angry, and dissatisfied. They are so important that I always use a values assessment as one of my self-confidence coaching tools. We use this information throughout our relationship to help you make tough choices, decide what to focus on in your daily life, and usually having the knowledge of what your values are helps clients have a better understanding of them and what makes them most happy. This is done usually in the first few sessions as well, like the wheel of life. During my work with coaching clients, one of the big goals is for you to have more awareness of who you are, what’s important to you, and what you need, and this is a great starting point. This is important because it gives us a lot of insight into who you are and what is most important to you. We will take all that information that we’ve gathered from the values assessment and wheel of life to create a vision of who you are and how you want to show up in life. These two tools are the foundation for all the work we will do in session and what you will practice outside of session.

Bravey Ladder

Now this is where the good stuff is. There are many self-confidence coaching tools that I use based on what a client is struggling with and what their goals are but one of my favorites is what I like to call a bravery ladder.

Usually, my clients with low self-esteem struggle with holding back and fear in some way. That may be fear of confrontation, fear of showing themselves and showing up authentically, fear of what other people think, fear of disappointing others, and other fears.

Because of these fears, the people I work with usually avoid. You may relate to this as well, you may avoid speaking up, conform to gain others’ approval, avoid sharing your true thoughts and opinions. And because of that, the fear grows and grows, and you avoid even more.

What’s interesting is that the thing that you’ve avoided is usually the thing that will make you feel most confident and free. So amongst other things that I work on with clients, this is one of the big ones.

We work together at you confronting the things that you’re afraid of(speaking up, confrontation, showing up as your true self), and man, the results are amazing. This is truly one of the best and my favorite self-confidence coaching tools that I absolutely love to work on with my clients. Because once you face the things that scare you most, the sky's the limit.

And I love having the opportunity to walk with my clients during this journey, provide support and coach them through the sticky/scary parts that they're afraid of, the mishaps, the wins, all the ways it went right and the ways it went wrong or completely unexpected. This is where the transformation happens.

I could list so many other self-confidence coaching tools that I use with clients, but these are my top ones. Every coach is different and will have other tools that they use and have found most helpful. So do your research, ask how they work, and I’m sure that you'll find a confidence coach that is best for you.

Until next time.